How To Convince Your Girlfriend That Guns Are Okay

Convincing your girlfriend that guns are okay can be a tricky objective. Each situation is different and each has it’s own unique complications. The outcome of your efforts is going to depend greatly upon how you approach the situation. Responsible gun ownership can be broken into three main components: Positive Attitude, Knowledge, and Skill.

Positive Attitude

Self defense is one of the main factors in gun ownership. The fact is, Women think and act differently than men.
“Women are ‘Life Givers’ and everything in their being, both physically and emotionally is designed to give and nurture life. As you can imagine, the decision to take a life, even when necessary to protect it, can create some personal conflict.”
“Accurate information that addresses these unique challenges is required in a non-intimidating environment where they can feel comfortable to explore and get questions answered. “ – The Well Armed Woman

Nature aside, there may be other factors at play that you don’t want to overlook before approaching her. Ask yourself, why? Why does she feel the way she does? Is there a history? Has there been a traumatic experience in the past? Try to see it from her perspective. What emotions are involved? Being understanding of her perspective will let her know that she can trust you. Acknowledge her emotional concerns and the difficulty she may have with facing vulnerabilities. Patience, love, and understanding. That’s your job, in maintaining a positive attitude.


We have been given freedom’s and rights. The First Amendment upholds our freedom of religion, speech, press, assembly, and petition. The Second Amendment of the United States Constitution reads: “A well regulated Militia, being necessary to the security of a free State, the right of the people to keep and bear Arms, shall not be infringed.” We have a right to defend ourselves and those we love. The right to defend ourselves in any location we are free to be is known as “Stand Your Ground”. Specific laws vary from state to state, but in all states the occupant has the right to defend themselves and any third party occupants of the home. This is known as “Castle Doctrine.”

Taking a concealed carry class can be very educational, even if you don’t plan to carry a firearm. You learn about the laws and the situations that merit the use of guns. You learn that the primary causes of firearm related accidents are ignorance and carelessness, all the more reason for knowledge.


Knowledge goes hand in hand with skill. Be sure to maintain a positive attitude and understand that some things require a smaller dose. It may be one thing for her to talk about guns with you, but it’s a completely different world to apply that knowledge to be of use in a real world situation. Start small and build up from there.

Basic Firearm Safety Rules
1. Treat all firearms as if they are loaded.
2. Always keep your finger off the trigger until your sights are on target and you have made the decision to fire.
3. Never point a firearm at anything you are not willing to shoot/destroy.
4. Know your target, your target’s environment, and any other safety hazard before you fire.

When you move into actually handling a firearm you want to start out small, a low caliber (22), and build up from their. Before handling a new firearm you should know how to properly load, unload and clear a malfunction from your firearm. Not all firearms are mechanically the same. Never assume that what applies to one make or model exactly applies to another.

Abraham Lincoln once said, “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” The idea here is preparation. Prepare your approach, how you’ll address her anticipated concerns, and how you can provide a clear perspective on responsible gun ownership.